Today 16 years ago I walked out of a life that had broken and battered me so bad. It had stolen my identity, voice and soul. I hate looking back to it but today is a good day to glance back if only to say “Fuck you asshole, I can have a life without you and its so much better than anything you ever threw my way. The day I left I started a journey that has surpassed anything I could have ever imagined that day!
The abuse that I suffered for 28 years have left its scars and the few memories I do have of that time comes back as monsters that rip and tear through my body and mind and leave me some night in a crumpled mess but today is not the day to dwell on that.
I left the small town I had lived in and then left the island I had lived all my life and the rest of the story is beautiful 🙂
I met my now husband online and right from day one we both knew we were meant to be together. We met in person 4 months after we met online and its now almost 16 years together.
I love him like I have never loved before and I feel a love from him that brings tears to my eyes just to think of. He is my best friend, lover, companion and safe place. He challenges me daily to be strong, brave, soft and loveable in the most peaceful and quiet way I have ever seen.
I’ve been to 27 states and lived in 5 of them and we are now back in Ontario Canada but the US will always be where I want to be because its there I had my first real home
So today I celebrate my freedom and the wonderful life I have now. I celebrate my braveness for walking away that day. I celebrate the strong woman I have become and I celebrate that I had the courage to let myself be loved and to allow myself to love. Happy Independence Day to me!!!!!
Cheers to me and the wonderful man that showed me what true unconditional love is all about!
I have no idea what is happening to me but the last few days I have been enjoying life so much. It all started when Mike had to have a hernia repair surgery last Wednesday, it was something I was dreading because I was scared that now I was going to have to step up and look after Mike and do things like drive the car, take out the trash, feed the fur babies and lift all things heavy!
Well day one I got up and Mike drove to the hospital and they got him prepped for surgery. Once they took him into the operating room I decided to go down to the cafeteria and get some lunch and this may sound weird but I was scared, not of the surgery but me without Mike …. I made my way to the cafeteria safely and as I eat my lunch I thought about how dependent I had become on Mike because of my illnesses. I looked around and I saw other woman even older than me just walking around and doing things that I had long given up because of my pain.
Then I thought how unfair to myself and Mike I had become, I had let pain win and was slowly giving up my independence that I had worked so hard to obtain and piled so much on Mike. Now let me be cleared Mike has never complained once about doing things for me and having to go everywhere I wanted or had to go but come on we all know it had to be tiring.
I decided right then and there to start getting my life back and take some worries from the wonderful man in surgery. I love him so much and he is my best friend and yes I always want to share every part of my life with him and be a part of his life forever
He came out of surgery and I actually found my way back to his room and visited with him for a couple of hours and then left to drive home. I drove all the way home myself and done all the things that Mike would usually do and I was fine. I even stayed up an hour later then I normally would and slept so good, with the light left on in the closet of course 🙂
The next few days I drove back to the hospital got Mike and then drove to another near by town and got groceries and got them up over the stairs myself. It hurt a lot doing that but I learned not to get so many groceries at once 🙂 Yesterday Mike and I went to the lake and I even walked the beaches and had a great time.
I know I have a lot of things going on right now with my knees, mental issues and fibromyalgia pain but I am not going to let it steal my life. I want to move back home (USA) more than anyone could ever imagine but I am taking one day at a time and learning to ……….